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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching

Why narcissistic abuse recovery coaching? If you have narcissistic parents and/or have been in a long-term relationship with a narcissist or other Cluster B disordered person, you have likely experienced complex relational trauma: prolonged, systematic, and targeted neglect and abuse. You also may have been traumatized by others who failed to understand or denied the realities of what you’ve gone through.

Such experiences set you up for self-defeating beliefs and patterns that may be affecting every aspect of your life—your self-esteem and sense of identity, your health and self-care, your relationships, even the work you do in the world.

Read or listen to my book.

You may be experiencing

hypervigilance
emotional reactivity
compulsive self-doubt
a harsh inner critic
depression and anxiety
avoidance
people-pleasing tendencies
compulsive guilt and shame
perfectionism
self-sabotage
episodes of dissociation
large memory gaps
addictions
addictive abuse cycles
poor self-care
panic attacks
nightmares and flashbacks
disabling fear of judgment or criticism
confused relationship boundaries
a sense of foreshortened future
chronic sleep disturbances
unexplained chronic pain/illness

The Role of Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching

Therapy has an important role to play in the recovery process, but because many therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists are not adequately trained in personality disorders or in treating narcissistic relational trauma (CPTSD), some survivors do not find the help they need when seeking therapeutic support. For those looking for alternatives, I offer specialized coaching.

As a narcissistic trauma recovery coach, I can help you

understand narcissistic personality disorder and other Cluster B disorders;
recognize narcissistic patterns in families and relationships;
understand human attachment and attachment trauma;
identify and interpret narcissistic motives and behavior;
understand codependency in relation to narcissism;
recognize patterns of complex posttraumatic stress;
validate your experience;
identify your feelings and triggers;
understand your coping style(s);
establish healthier boundaries;
develop self-awareness;
build self-esteem;
practice self-care and self-advocacy;
understand and process grief; and
build emotional literacy and resilience.

If you have kids with a narcissistic partner or ex, I can help you

understand what they are going through;
recognize signs of trauma;
identify the role they play(ed) in the family;
interpret sibling dynamics;
interpret dynamics with their other parent;
rebuild their trust in you;
support their healing; and
manage coparenting.

More About My Coaching

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I am based in the United States and work with people around the world. Depending on your needs, coaching may be a few conversations or ongoing sessions.

A great way to learn more about my coaching is to listen to my 90-minute audio course Understanding Narcissism from Himalaya Learning. You can also read my Psychology Today article 6 Core Insights from a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach.

Please Note: I offer narcissistic abuse recovery coaching with the understanding that although I know a lot about attachment, personality disorders, and complex trauma recovery both personally and professionally, I am not a trained therapist or legal advisor. You are your own advocate, and I am here to support you with the toolkit I have as an author/expert and empathetic survivor.

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Please note that I do not offer therapy or coaching referrals.

Testimonials

I was thinking how am I going to tell Julie what our three years together have meant to me. I feel so blessed, it’s beyond words. Through your help I found myself. I’m home.

—Anne

I have to tell you how I just weep with gratitude for you in the lives of our family. My kids are healthier. In so many ways. You have given us concepts and language. Self-compassion. Hope.

—Terri

I feel a hundred pounds lighter. Your help has been life-changing. I can’t thank you enough.

—Steve

Thank you so much for the unbelievable abundance of understanding and goodness you have brought to my life! You are my hero.

—Jean

I’ve gotten more from talking with Julie in a few sessions than I have in 35 years of psychotherapy.

—David

I wanted to tell you how thankful I am that our paths crossed. You have helped me in a profound, life changing way that my family is benefiting from. For that I am extremely grateful. Your counseling took the blinders off and has given me amazing clarity.

—Susanne

It has been life changing to work with you. You, your expertise, and your heart for those of us that are fellows in this recovery have been a lifeline over the past few years. Thank you so much Julie.

—Kelly

I’ve come such a long way in moving beyond this thing that had dragged me down for years, thanks to your help. You are very gifted in what you do.

—Leslie

Since working together I’m much more stable, I don’t have nightmares or panic attacks anymore. You’ve given me incredible support, it’s been so eye-opening. The work we did around being able to listen to my body has been incredibly important.

—Anastasia

I’ve been in therapy on and off for 20 years, and no one said what you’re saying. Thank you so much.

—MaryAnn

Thank you for making this broke world a better place.

—Bill

Thank you for all your help these last few months. You really fast tracked my ability to understand my father and family dynamic so I could start pinpointing impacts it has had on me. I was in a really desperate state and you helped me out of it and be better equipped to manage it.

—Ashlee

Your validation and insights into patterns of NPD behaviors have been extremely helpful, and are now a ‘resource’ inside my mind as I think about what may or may not be possible in any future contact with my mom or my brother. There’s also something about your spirit and energy—this combination of (what feels like) your empowered self with your compassion—that is incredibly moving and inspiring to me. It comes through in your live voice as much as it does in your writing. I hope you will write more. The world needs you. Thank you for traveling with me on my journey.

—Julie

These are life-changing conversations. Thank you.

—Nathalie

Thank you, thank you, thank you Julie for your intellect, courage, and kindness.

—S.

I’ve been to so many therapists, celebrity therapists, the Meadows. You’re the first person who has really talked about attachment trauma—you’re doing a pretty great job!

—Dani

This has been extremely, extremely helpful.

—Olivia

Meeting you has been one of the most positive turning points in my life. I’m in so much of a better place thanks to you, your book, and all the strategies you have suggested. I can’t thank you enough for getting me through one of the most stressful points in my life.

—Aislinn

I am doing great, in no small part to the help you gave me!

—Audrey

I wanted to thank you for the sessions we did together. It was affirming and helped me start the process of crossing a bridge to sanity and recovery at a dark time in my life.

—Natalie

I will never be able to express how much you have helped me. I’m forever indebted to you for sharing your wisdom and empathy. I didn’t see how I could move forward, and now my life is making sense for the first time.

—Jas

My friend spoke very highly of your coaching. Now I see why. I’m so glad I reached out to you. I tell everyone about you. You’re like an engineer of being human.

—Denis

No one else has your depth of understanding.

—Evelyn, psychotherapist

Julie, it feels amazing. And HUGE and wonderful. I am so excited about the next chapter of my life. Thank you, your support means the absolute world to me.

—Jacqueline

My husband says I’m doing so much better working with you. He says I’m a new woman after our talks.

—Pam

I’ve had at least 15 therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists, and no one helped until you. This is the first time in my life I’ve truly felt validated. Now I know what healing is.

—Caren

I can’t say often enough how much our work together is helping me. It is everything.

—Cory

I wouldn’t be here without your help these past three years.

—Zoe, psychiatrist

The processing I’ve been doing with you this year has been phenomenal.

—Kathryn

You have been a wonderful resource and sounding board for me these past five years. I so appreciate you.

—Susan

The things you told me were so helpful, they really worked. I can’t tell you how happy and relieved I was.

—Tracey

Julie brings a unique set of tools to the thorny, confusing problem of narcissistic relationships and family systems. Her coaching is based on years of meticulous research, which provides credible, comforting context, but clarity and empathy are what really define her distinctive coaching style. Patient and thoughtful, Julie enabled me at long last to validate my own experience. I can’t imagine a more intuitive, knowledgeable, articulate or gifted guide in navigating the fraught, often crazy-making experience that is life under the sway of a narcissist.

—Leslie

Thanks for everything you have done and are doing for me. You truly make a difference in peoples’ lives, especially the ones who are fortunate to have you as their coach!

—Tim

Your guidance and support has been a life-changing force Julie.

—Chin

Wow. You are so good at what you do. You are amazing!!!!

—Mary

Julie has helped me immensely in processing the fact of and nature of my mother’s narcissism. She listens carefully, and with gentle but laserlike precision narrows in on carefully constructed denials and blindspots, helping reveal the truth. She also listens with strong empathy, and when talking with her I never felt alone or like I couldn’t handle the truth. I appreciate her deep understanding, keen insights, and optimism about my ability to shake the shackles of having been the golden child in my family.

—Sara

I find this so beneficial, so helpful, your explanations and use of language are so powerful. You are better than most therapists.

—Amy, marriage and family therapist

Every minute talking with you is gold.

—Oskar

Julie has been a lifesaver for me. I can’t say enough about how she has helped me on my journey to being whole. When we talk I feel like I’m talking to a good friend. With her knowledge and wisdom, she could be charging much more, and I’m so grateful that she keeps her rate affordable so people like me can get help. She is truly doing god’s work.

—Antoinette

This has been extraordinarily helpful.

—Susanna

Having talked with you in such depth, I had a new feeling of lightness of heart. Maybe it was the telling you, a fellow sufferer, that validated my experiences. Fixed something in me . . . ?

—Jan

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