We’ve all experienced insensitive talkers who dominate conversations with excessive chatter and poor listening. But if you’re treated to regular aggressive ear-bending disguised as “conversation,” you may be dealing with the soul-crushing verbal bullying of narcissistic monologuing. Not all narcissists…
As the daughter of a narcissistic mother you face countless assaults to your identity, integrity, and individuality. One of the most pernicious forms of assault plays out on the battlefield of your body. Before we peer into the black hole…
For so many of us, the holidays elicit complex emotions about our core human needs for home, family, love, and belonging. For those with narcissistic family members, this time of year tends to intensify our hopes and fears about fulfilling those needs,…
First published in Psychology Today 10/14/19 Children of narcissistic parents, particularly children who are routinely devalued or scapegoated, commonly internalize feelings of vulnerability, hopelessness, and imminent threat that create a sense of foreshortened future. Like other long-term trauma sufferers, children from narcissistic families…
Covert narcissism can be difficult to identify, even in someone you think you know well. Use this checklist to recognize the covert narcissist in your life.
Listen to Julie discuss this article in detail in her interview on Narcissist Apocalypse Podcast. Many of us are familiar with the narcissistic personality’s classic traits such as grandiosity, callousness, and trigger-happy rage, but there are other things narcissists do…
Abuse in the narcissistic family is typically understood as a set of overbearing behaviors stemming from the narcissist’s outsized self-importance and impaired empathy. Narcissists dominate family members with their excessive neediness, selfish demands, antagonism, hypersensitivity, and unrealistic expectations. But neglect,…
There is nearly always someone enabling the narcissist. Being fundamentally dependent on others for the self-assurance and definition they lack, narcissists don’t get very far without enablers. An enabler supports the narcissist’s insistence on control, inflated persona, exaggerated entitlement, and…
Growing up in a narcissistic family, Ava’s first memory, at three years old, was being beaten across the face with a belt. Her father, a sadistic malignant narcissist, regularly beat her and her two brothers throughout their childhoods. On that…
Estimates range about the prevalence of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), putting it between 0.5 percent and 6.2 percent of the general population. Even if the high estimate is accurate, the likelihood of having a parent or spouse with NPD is…