The Narcissist Family Files is an award-winning international resource for survivors of narcissistic abuse and complex trauma, founded by journalist and author of The Narcissist in Your Life Julie L. Hall.
This website contains 80+ of Julie’s articles about narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic patterns of abuse and neglect, and complex relational trauma. You can use the search function on the Home page to look for articles or topics, or you can scroll down the Home page to find every article on this website.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a disabling mental illness resulting from a perfect storm of insecure attachment, other traumatic circumstances, and genetic factors.
Narcissists Are Relationally Abusive
Life with a narcissist is traumatizing. Partners and children are targeted with emotional reactivity, projective identifications, excessive demands, distortions of reality, boundary violations, and ongoing invalidation in the form of one-upmanship, denial, dismissal, sarcasm, blame, baiting, rage, guilt, gaslighting, and other destructive behaviors. If you have narcissistic family members, you may be suffering with symptoms of complex trauma.
Educating Yourself
Whether you’re still in the thick of it with the narcissist(s) in your life or trying to make sense of the past, the fact that you are looking for answers is good news. Acknowledging the problem and working to understand it are the first steps to recovery. Through understanding, we learn that
- we are not alone;
- we are not to blame for how we have been hurt (contrary to what we have been told); and
- we can release the pain and confusion we have carried, many of us since birth.
Coaching/Consulting
Julie is on hiatus from ongoing one-on-one coaching but is still available for consultations about specific questions or issues. Learn more and make an appointment on her Consult page.
Testimonials
Julie hears from people every day. Here are samples of reader and listener feedback (read more):
“Finding your website literally saved my life. After years and years of searching for answers to help me understand my family dysfunction and fearing I might really just be crazy (like most of my family says), I had fallen into a suicidal depression. Realizing that I am the family scapegoat and the true extent of the abuse I have suffered at the hands of my mother was astonishing. I stayed up most of the night reading as many of your articles as I could, weeping. I set sail on an ocean of grief and even though I have yet to find dry land, I found the courage to finally completely cut myself off from the abuse. There are days when the loss of my family is engulfing. But because of you I no longer feel so incredibly alone in my situation. And I no longer want to die. Thank you from the depths of my soul.” —Alicia
“The Narcissist Family Files is the best, most detailed, and extensive writing about narcissism on the interwebs.”—Colleen
“I’ve been voraciously reading your articles. I am in utter disbelief that someone can so accurately describe my childhood growing up under a narcissist mother and enabling father. Thank you for helping make a stranger feel like I am not crazy finally!” —Dan
“‘You’ve saved my life’ is an understatement.” —Jana
“I found your website yesterday and wanted to thank you for putting it out into the world: It is a true godsend! It is the best resource for survivors of narcissistic parenting and abuse I have found—well-written and highly informative. Thank you so much! I will be following your blog and reading your books when they come out!” —Wendy Gillissen, clinical psychologist & author
About Julie L. Hall
Julie is an international consultant/coach and writer specializing in insecure attachment and complex relational trauma resulting from narcissistic abuse and neglect in families and relationships. She is the author of The Narcissist in Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free from Hachette Books and the founder of the award-winning blog The Narcissist Family Files. She writes and speaks about attachment trauma and recovery for BBC, Psychology Today, HuffPost, Vice, Psych Central, ACON Conference, CPTSD Foundation, Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter, AVAIYA University, Himalaya Learning, Addicted Mind, Narcissist Apocalypse, RVNTV, Real Divorce Talk Radio, Command the Courtroom, and more.
Julie is a journalist, poet, and educational writer on a range of subjects, including literature, science, climate change, and social justice. She began writing about narcissism and complex trauma to understand her family of origin and help others like herself.
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