Published on HuffPost 11/19/17 Partners, children, and anyone else subjected to the narcissist’s disrespect find themselves working to figure out how to avoid it and gain their elusive respect. If we can just decode the mystery of what they respect,…
Being fundamentally ashamed of themselves, people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) are experts at playing the shame game with those around them. Often confused with its cousin guilt, which is a feeling of distress about something we have done, shame…
Whether partners, children, other relatives, or friends, narcissist’s caretakers are sustaining forces who enable narcissistic personalities in their delusions, manipulations, and abuse. When the caretaker is a spouse, s/he has likely been seduced by the narcissist, swallowing hook, line, and…
Published on HuffPost, 10/20/17, 1:42 a.m. ET. Those of us exposed to trauma know all too well the experience of distressing nightmares. We may thrash around in bed and struggle to speak or cry out. When we finally reach consciousness,…
Life with a narcissist is like being in a fun house without the fun: Narcissistic mirroring and projection meet you at every turn. At first you may feel dazzled, seduced by what the narcissist is showing you about yourself and…
Why does it seem that narcissists get worse with age? Aging is hard. Losing our vitality and facing our mortality can be scary and painful. But we discover upsides, like reaping the fruits of our personal and professional labors, recognizing…
Whether on the playground, in the workplace, or on the home front, we all have experience with jerks: insensitive, self-serving people we’re better off without. Whether they’re self-righteous bigots, snarky critics, or cynical naysayers, they burden our lives with dead…
Published in The HuffPost 5/09/2017 at 7:21 p.m. E.T. Lacking a moral compass or the ability to act selflessly, narcissist parents create devastating havoc and damage in the lives of their kids. Unlike emotionally mature parents whose priority is to meet…
Ah, the intersection of narcissism and social media. It’s a match made in heaven, or hell, depending on how you look at it. Because the narcissist personality survives and moreover thrives on attention, reaching innumerable people at the speed of…
Published on The Huffington Post April 22, 10:59 p.m. ET. When she went to college, Ali of Portland, Oregon, was surprised to find herself telling a friend that she hated her father. The friend asked if her father had abused her,…