For so many of us, the holidays elicit complex emotions about our core human needs for home, family, love, and belonging. For those with narcissistic family members, this time of year tends to intensify our hopes and fears about fulfilling those needs,…
The Narcissist Family Files Blog is an award-winning international resource for survivors of narcissistic abuse and trauma, founded by journalist and author of The Narcissist in Your Life Julie L. Hall. Here you will find insight and a vocabulary for…
Estimates range about the prevalence of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), putting it between 0.5 percent and 6.2 percent of the general population. Even if the high estimate is accurate, the likelihood of having a parent or spouse with NPD is…
Published on HuffPost 12/28/2017 at 7:53 pm ET Even if you don’t do New Year’s resolutions, if you are in a debilitating narcissistic relationship with a narcissist partner/spouse this might be a good time to start. Identify the Signs Wondering…
Whether you’re an adult child, partner/spouse, or other family member of a person with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), perhaps the most difficult aspect of the relationship is coming to grips with the fact that this person does not and will…
As the saying goes, we often hurt the ones we love, but many narcissists torture others deliberately, whether to boost their self-esteem or for sadistic enjoyment, or both. Merriam-Webster defines torture as “the infliction of intense pain to coerce, punish,…
Published on HuffPost 11/19/17 Partners, children, and anyone else subjected to the narcissist’s disrespect find themselves working to figure out how to avoid it and gain their elusive respect. If we can just decode the mystery of what they respect,…
Being fundamentally ashamed of themselves, people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) are experts at playing the shame game with those around them. Often confused with its cousin guilt, which is a feeling of distress about something we have done, shame…
Whether partners, children, other relatives, or friends, narcissist’s caretakers are sustaining forces who enable narcissistic personalities in their delusions, manipulations, and abuse. When the caretaker is a spouse, s/he has likely been seduced by the narcissist, swallowing hook, line, and…
Published on HuffPost, 10/20/17, 1:42 a.m. ET. Those of us exposed to trauma know all too well the experience of distressing nightmares. We may thrash around in bed and struggle to speak or cry out. When we finally reach consciousness,…