Happy September!
I have a few things to tell you.
For many months I have been in intensive recovery from a serious accident. I’m doing well, but this has meant that I have not been able to respond to many of your messages and comments. Please know that I value your readership, your feelings and experiences. Thanks to those of you who have entrusted me with your stories. One of my happy places is to connect with and help others through my writing, and I love that it has resonated with you. Know that my inability to write each of you does not reflect a lack of caring.
Many of you ask about my books, so here’s the update: I’m pleased to announce that my book The Narcissist in Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free is coming December 3, 2019, from Da Capo Lifelong Books/Hachette Book Group, and is now available for preorder from major outlets. They publish excellent books, and I’m honored to be one of their authors. I will announce further information about the book here on this website, The Narcissist Family Files.
A final note: Please also know that while you are connected here through your shared painful experiences with narcissism, this does not define you. You may ask yourself, as I do at times, who would I have been if I hadn’t gotten hurt like this? Who might I have turned out to be? Try bending that question in a new direction: What have my experiences taught me? Who can I be now?
Healing wishes,
Julie
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I can't wait to read your new book. Your articles have helped me better understand my family dynamic. I am working on a book about my family. Hoping by sharing my experience, it will help others.
Thanks Michelle. Good luck with your book and let us know when we can read it!
Glad to hear you are healing!
Thanks Lydia!
Dear Julie, thank you for your important work on understanding NPD! I am a survivor of a narcissistic family system and a trauma therapist. My work is with children and families with an emphasis on attachment, abuse recovery and trauma... I’ve been seeing an overwhelming amount of kiddos suffering from emotional abuse with alienation . I’m trying to learn as much as i can about young children with a NPD parent. Your articles have helped many of my clients and I so appreciate what you’ve done. It sounds like you are resting and healing but if you are able I would love to learn more about ways of helping young children heal while in the misdt of- and despite their regular abusive visits (which there is usually no hope in reducing or eliminating). At my clinic we do sand tray, art, play and movement therapies as well as emdr and neurofeedback. I support victimized parents as much as I can but mainly, what else can I do to help kids survive and develop a healthy identity?
Thank you again!
Esther
Thanks for writing, Esther. That sounds like difficult but such important work. Please look for an email from me.
When loved one hot ill mine murdered in a way leaving no trace.......and deprived pain meds
.food....all....I scapegoat KNEW mine could but never find anything on it. I truly wonder how many do though and disguise it as the illness they developed or other ailments that are inflicted or easily treated but neglected purposely to hurt and kill and how many of us just see illness not causes of it being abuser as I cannot be the only one ....hospital jumping..same tests for things I saw in house prior..pace maker monitor..really first diagnosis..it was not working. 2 when all fluid drained from the induced heart failure ..skin and bones..from what..he had nothing oh but each hospital tested his swallowing problem. Then onto next next next into 5th determined swallowing not problem and put feeding tube not life support for nutrition. He pulled it died in morning from what...believe it or not best cardio said he beat the heart problem.....was going to be fine after meds...etc....then there was pain back legs not quite right day before he was taken to topic island. 2 months letter I found him...in agony no meds for it paralyzed waist down from what was a treatable abcess had he been taken to doctor. Why I no contact knew this so obvious others never thought anything of it after all the legs were his Parkinson's.....they believed. No I looked into that and y...knew it was a side effect of med and once off it would go away and did after I got him off. Oh but that stuck. Ever know someone with it either shakes like a fish or is stiff....which is why they need meds..to move which causes all the shaking. So that was legs paralyzed problem....his swallowing....
Pleeeze.....water drained all bones..was that Parkinson's? Why did people not know THAT part at least oh forgot he could not eat swallowing problem. Funny last two days alive he had pain meds.....abcess treated after 3 months agony...and immediate feeding tube.....that was first hosp in was taken from to other 3 only to return there 5 weeks later where all probs treated. Hmmmm why all the others. Who needs 4 5 hospitals? I sit with this pain alone. No communication to outside world he cried on phone..no numbers or phones....he died when he knew it was not going to end...no visitors just immediate family hmmmm..isolated .....no phone numbers until I got them to each place then phones did not work....he chose out..pulled tube but why die next morning...he was starved to death.........do any of you know they kill.......please comment...feel so. Alone on this horror of a man who was my everything....dad