#12 Unspoken Rules in the Narcissistic Family

12 Unspoken Rules of Engagement in the Narcissistic Family

on March 15, 2020 5:33 pm

The healthy family model is turned on its head to support the parents rather than foster the children’s development.

Jade on Remembering Mary Tyler Moore as the Chilling Narcissist Mother in ‘Ordinary People’November 14, 2024
I agree with you so much. I was reading this and did not consider Beth to be a narcissist. She…
Do Narcissists Know They Are Narcissists? on Life in the Fun House: Narcissistic Mirroring and ProjectionNovember 10, 2024
[…] https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/category/the-narcissist-family-files/the-narcissists-funhouse-of-m… […]
Myra on The Narcissistic Cult of White Male Christian Nationalism & Project 2025November 10, 2024
I'm a survivor of malignant narc abuse Living with C PTSD. I wanted to share your articles until I seen…
Liana on Narcissism 101: A Glossary of Terms for Understanding the MadnessOctober 28, 2024
thanks for info.
Steven K on Remembering Mary Tyler Moore as the Chilling Narcissist Mother in ‘Ordinary People’September 26, 2024
I still think Robert Redford, who directed Moore to an Oscar nomination in this masterpiece, could give considerable insight into…

I’ve gotten more from talking with Julie in a few sessions than I have in 35 years of psychotherapy.”
—David

Julie brings a unique set of tools to the thorny, confusing problem of narcissistic relationships and family systems. Her coaching is based on years of meticulous research, which provides credible, comforting context, but clarity and empathy are what really define her distinctive coaching style. Patient and thoughtful, Julie enabled me at long last to validate my own experience. I can’t imagine a more intuitive, knowledgeable, articulate or gifted guide in navigating the fraught, often crazy-making experience that is life under the sway of a narcissist.
—Leslie S.

“Wow. You are so good at what you do. You are amazing!!!!”
—Mary

“Julie has helped me immensely in processing the fact of and nature of my mother’s narcissism. She listens carefully, and with gentle but laserlike precision narrows in on carefully constructed denials and blindspots, helping reveal the truth. She also listens with strong empathy, and when talking with her I never felt alone or like I couldn’t handle the truth. I appreciate her deep understanding, keen insights, and optimism about my ability to shake the shackles of having been the golden child in my family.”
—Sara

“Having talked with you in such depth on Saturday, I had a new feeling of lightness of heart.”
—Jan

“I’ve been eaten with worry about my daughter because of my narcissistic ex. You gave me new hope that we can get through this. Thank you thank you thank you!”
—Dave

“It feels incredible finally to talk about my family with someone who gets it!”
—Nico

“This is the first time in my life I’ve found someone who really understands.”
—Emma