#cycles of hurt with narcissists

5 Boundary-Setting Basics with the Narcissists in Your Life

on September 2, 2020 7:02 pm

Here are tried and true boundary-setting strategies to protect yourself from narcissistic abuse.

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I’ve gotten more from talking with Julie in a few sessions than I have in 35 years of psychotherapy.”
—David

Julie brings a unique set of tools to the thorny, confusing problem of narcissistic relationships and family systems. Her coaching is based on years of meticulous research, which provides credible, comforting context, but clarity and empathy are what really define her distinctive coaching style. Patient and thoughtful, Julie enabled me at long last to validate my own experience. I can’t imagine a more intuitive, knowledgeable, articulate or gifted guide in navigating the fraught, often crazy-making experience that is life under the sway of a narcissist.
—Leslie S.

“Wow. You are so good at what you do. You are amazing!!!!”
—Mary

“Julie has helped me immensely in processing the fact of and nature of my mother’s narcissism. She listens carefully, and with gentle but laserlike precision narrows in on carefully constructed denials and blindspots, helping reveal the truth. She also listens with strong empathy, and when talking with her I never felt alone or like I couldn’t handle the truth. I appreciate her deep understanding, keen insights, and optimism about my ability to shake the shackles of having been the golden child in my family.”
—Sara

“Having talked with you in such depth on Saturday, I had a new feeling of lightness of heart.”
—Jan

“I’ve been eaten with worry about my daughter because of my narcissistic ex. You gave me new hope that we can get through this. Thank you thank you thank you!”
—Dave

“It feels incredible finally to talk about my family with someone who gets it!”
—Nico

“This is the first time in my life I’ve found someone who really understands.”
—Emma

“I’ve gotten more from talking with Julie in a few sessions than I have in 35 years of psychotherapy.”
—David
Julie brings a unique set of tools to the thorny, confusing problem of narcissistic relationships and family systems. Her coaching is based on years of meticulous research, which provides credible, comforting context, but clarity and empathy are what really define her distinctive coaching style. Patient and thoughtful, Julie enabled me at long last to validate my own experience. I can’t imagine a more intuitive, knowledgeable, articulate or gifted guide in navigating the fraught, often crazy-making experience that is life under the sway of a narcissist. —Leslie S.
“Wow. You are so good at what you do. You are amazing!!!!”
—Mary
“Julie has helped me immensely in processing the fact of and nature of my mother’s narcissism. She listens carefully, and with gentle but laserlike precision narrows in on carefully constructed denials and blindspots, helping reveal the truth. She also listens with strong empathy, and when talking with her I never felt alone or like I couldn’t handle the truth. I appreciate her deep understanding, keen insights, and optimism about my ability to shake the shackles of having been the golden child in my family.”
—Sara
“Having talked with you in such depth on Saturday, I had a new feeling of lightness of heart.”
—Jan
“I’ve been eaten with worry about my daughter because of my narcissistic ex. You gave me new hope that we can get through this. Thank you thank you thank you!”
—Dave
“It feels incredible finally to talk about my family with someone who gets it!”
—Nico
“This is the first time in my life I’ve found someone who really understands.”
—Emma