Those of us with the misfortune of having a narcissist in our life, currently or formerly, are intimately familiar with narcissist rage. Here is a real-life damage list of some things raging narcissists have broken or destroyed. (Edited for clarity.)
Damage List
“I’ve replaced household furnishings in their entirety over the years…broken tables, lamps, chairs, even artwork torn from the walls and broken, even my car transmission by slamming it into park when I tried to leave him. But I think the topper was an entire range/stove. After confronting him about suspected infidelity, the argument ensued and not only did he break the dining room table by throwing it across the room, he threw a coffee cup right through the oven door. And yes, he was cheating….again. After almost 15 years of this roller coaster ride through hell… I finally left.”
—Tammy
“He killed my dog . . . and a kitten the following summer.”
—Rebecca
“Mine killed my cat.”
—Sue
“Everything! Lamps, walls, DVDs, pictures, items from my deceased grandma, vintage records—always my things—doors, plates, chairs, cups, tables, my heart, my spirit, my soul. [He] stabbed a ketchup bottle with a pairing knife screaming ‘die bitch die’ and told me I’m lucky it wasn’t me. And his favorite ‘throw’ was throwing me and my daughter out of the house in the cold, without car keys, locking us out.”
—Rebecca
“Ribs, feet, jaw, fingers, knee caps, eye socket, teeth, and nose . . . my dog’s ribs, eyeglasses, many phones, three laptops, mirrors, windows in car, TV, safe, jewelry, and so much more . . . my spirit but never my will to survive.”
—Katt
“The NARC drove the $25K John Deere tractor through the garage door when I called the bookkeeper about our company expenses—?! He also SMASHED my Macbook Pro on the floor in front of our children when I didn’t take his food out of the oven in time. I could go on and on. . . .”
–Adrienne
“Empty wine bottles.”
—Rosemary
“Phone, laptop, toys, headphones . . . and an endless list of stuff he hid all for reasons God only knows.”
—Sofia
“He smashed an acoustic guitar at the end of the driveway and into our street and left it there.”
—Faith
“My sister’s bird. The jar of orange juice against the kitchen wall in the mornings. Walls, doors, mirrors, my brother’s kite . . .”
—Julie
“Broke my will to live.”
—Samuel
“He threw my pet cat out a third-story window.”
—Raquel
“My grandparents’ vintage wedding photo that we thought was missing and finally found.”
—Patti
“A car windshield and the grocery cart he threw into it, a TV, my dresser, a kids piggy bank, a few cars, his friend’s nose (LOL), a fence, a few walls. That’s all I care to remember right now.”
—Sue
“My ex once punched a hole in the wall and then ripped the entire 4′ x 8′ sheet of drywall down. I’m excellent at drywall work, thanks to him.”
—Mary
“My 2,000-piece puzzle I spent two months working on (I have PTSD, and it was a way to cope). My China hutch—he pushed it off a porch when we were moving ’cause I couldn’t hear him due to partial deafness. He burned irreplaceable family pictures (of deceased loved ones); broke my fingers (4), my teeth, two laptops, a few phones, tables, and my taillight on my car. He punched the fridge and dented it really good and two bathroom doors (trying to get to me ’cause I was trying to get away from him), knick knacks, plates, glasses, and that’s all I can think of off the top of my head.”
—Erica
“I lost count of how many cell phones. . . .”
—Dani
“As a teenager she broke my first digital camera . . . because I had used the phone.”
“Everything: my soul and spirit and furniture, dishes, my Christmas angel, my heart. . . .”
—Lititia
“Burnt all my clothes and stuff. Punched holes in doors, etc. Emptied bank accounts . . . I have a list.”
—Melissa
“He threw my makeup bag across the room, broke a lamp, punched holes in the walls, hit me in the face with the screen door, and many more things I have forgotten over the years.”
—Annie
“Walls, brand new 65-inch TV, ceiling fan with the barstool that he also broke.”
—Tastee
“A cute audiotape of our girls when they were little. He broke it in half and hurled it out into the yard.”
—Deb
“My computer, my children’s hearts, my soul—tortured the heart and soul out of me for years!!! Mean Drunk!!! Control Freak!!!!”
—Lisa
“Besides a few of my bones, he ripped and shredded my clothes and threw out all of my dad’s belongings including a heart remembrance necklace with my dad’s ashes in it (my dad had passed away). I was devastated.”
—Jen
“Walls. Doors. Phones. Dishes. Me.”
—Genie
“She Broke My Heart!”
—Will
“His hand from punching the wall.”
—Mindy
“Photo frames, hair, hip, diary, earrings, car, friends, and family.”
—Angel
“Vacuum, ironing board, sewing machine.”
—Laura
“In a beautiful case of Karma and poetic justice, he once broke his own toe by kicking his own truck, and that was just an awesome thing!”
—Michele
“X-Box controller. Glasses.”
—Ludmilla
“My electronics and my face.”
—Sarah
“Pole over my head, lol, stupid cow.”
—Glen
“You name it, he broke it! I was trying to leave once and he threw every bottle of my perfume—nail polish, dish, etc. Then he grabbed my new Ralph Lauren coat (just bought it for me for Christmas) and was trying to mop up the polish!”
—Mindy
“Every bit of glass that I had in the kitchen.”
—Elaine
“My phones and my bones.”
—Niki
“My heart, my soul, my self-esteem, my happiness, my confidence . . .”
—Tania
“Me, shelves, pictures, my glasses, smashed my make-up.”
—Annie
“Broke my kids and my spirit.”
—Meeghan
“My back.”
—Leslie
Julie L. Hall is the author of The Narcissist in Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free from Hachette Books.
Need support? Julie provides specialized narcissistic abuse recovery coaching to clients around the world.
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Jabbed my chest where I had heart surgery,upended the table broke art on the wall put a hole in the wall shoved a dog carrier into me while on the floor punched my dog in the head abused my Pitt if she got too close to me called me unspeakable names took jewelry never helped with any bills punched my arm raged about using my truck when he had one
I sincerely hope you have found your way out of that abusive madness, Arline. I wish for you better things ahead.
What Tania said….My heart, my soul, my self-esteem, my happiness, my confidence . . .”
posturing, sulking, running ahead of me, turning his back on me, refusing all eye contact, flirting with other women, ths quiet personalized rage was his favourite, he enjoyed being abusive.
I left without warning after rage three, they grew worse and more frequent, he could kill, I saw it.
Between both my parents it might be easier to list what HASN’T been broken…
He has broken my trust, my innocence, my hopefulness, my past belief that I deserved a happy life, my smile. I’ve been through a lot in my life especially when young. I survived somehow keeping a sense of hopefulness inside me that life would be better. I used to smile always and loved to laugh. I love the simplest of things, like a new flower blooming in my garden or making cookies. Now, after 7 years of being stonewalled, denied, degraded, judged harshly and punished wrongly, I am hardly able to get out of bed each day, if at all. For example, this last Friday, he accused me of cheating. He told me I was never to be respected, I was dirty, I wasn’t worth being touched ever again and since then I have been cold shouldered with occasional texts giving the impression I’m trash. I’ve never cheated on him. I haven’t been able to get out of bed since. I am alone all the time now. I don’t care about the simple things because I have no reason to think I’m good enough to be listened to, appreciated, noticed, loved, touched. He broke my spirit. I don’t think I’ll get it back. I can’t even get myself to stop seeing him or needing him. It’s a nightmare of relentless pain. The tornado he throws at me hits hard and is always unpredictable. There is no chance of getting to shelter.
How a person breaks someone down like this is beyond anything I can understand. I just hope that I’ll be ok one day and that he doesnt hurt anyone else.
The person who used to smile and laugh is still there. Imagine that you are a child who desperately needs help to get out. Don’t give up on that child. She needs you.
He sounds like my mother. Please try to find away out. He will never change. My childhood was horrible. I now suffer from horrible depression. My mom moved in with me after she sold her house. When she went out of the country, I sold the house. I told her I loved her but she was poison. I would love her from afar. I brought her things to my brother’s house and never looked back. I am now trying to find the strength to find my light.
Your abuser saw something genuine and beautiful in you that threatened his false sense of self. My hated me because I was smart and funny and kind. All the things she is not. RUN. You’re worthy and loveable. Don’t let someone who is devoid of empathy take your soul. Shine your light.
Most recently, he threw a dish through the window in the living room, because I wouldn’t admit to “having an affair”: an accusation with absolutely no merit.
(His tirade that day was what made me suspect that perhaps it was HE who was cheating, and projecting his behavior onto me.)
Pulled blinds off wall at least a few times a year blames me for being usless not being real man fixing house..like it’s my job to devote my life to fixing kicked in door hinges, blinds pulled off walls. Raging psycho woman from hell, but somehow always spun it as she being the poor victim, everyone mistreating her.
This stuff you have posted has completely and utterly freaked me out…. Mr Narc is a lot of these things and has beat me …. I just needed to find out what was going on and why I didn’t please him. Why he always second guessed me…. why he was so jealous when I got promoted and started earning a real good salary. Why he blamed me for having the children, why we were always so utterly broke, why if we weren’t ready to go somewhere when he got really pissed off. If I looked what I thought was nice …. he say those jeans are too tight don’t you think. How come your at a night club are you trying to pick someone up….. I’ve been packing my rental house down for the past 4 – 5 weeks…. It’s just the silent treatment no comments no nothing….. he left me his share of the rent two weeks ago…. when I asked if he was going to contribute to food – NO I’m just going to eat all the food in the freezer and the cupboards and f*ck you if you think I’m going to help you get any more. I agreed and said fine eat it all…… I just buy what I need as I need it…. as long my SON has food that he enjoys in the house I don’t give a f*ck if he eats it all.
From the stories it sounds like the calm before the storm…. I’m going to have to call our adult son’s around when I move in case this “F*CKER” try’s to take me out.
37 years of torment and I found out the name of this sick f*ckers illness…. I know and he knows I know….. I don’t know but I think I’m ok – I had the biggest cry about 5 weeks ago…. it felt like I had attended a funeral and buried someone…. I know who that someone was – It’s the f*cker that has attempted to suck my soul out of me.
I apologise for the swearing….. however, it relieves my inner self to express myself this way….. Lord forgive me…. funny thing is though….. I don’t hate him – I feel sorry for him….. I started to heal myself – take time to put makeup on after years of not doing this – taking care of my inner soul – I even got the courage to ring a friend who my ex shrewdly managed to help me discard a few years ago.
When I called her OMG it was like we’ve never stopped talking ….. I told her I was sorry for the shitty stuff I put her through and sorry for the crap that had happened and admitted that I wasn’t well in head due to the ex exploiting me from the age of 16 years old. I told her how I thought it was me not doing things right for the ex … she stopped right there and said IT’S NEVER BEEN YOU IT’S YOUR EX …….
So gorgeous people find yourself, love yourself, heal your mind, heart, body and soul – reach out to someone who had been pushed out because of the ugliness, reconnect. I have asked a higher power to help me and I know he has a plan for me…. the plan may be slow …. but it is clear…. I have my up and down days BUT mostly up’s ….. then out of the BLUE SOME ONE CALLS and gives me the energy I much need to keep on my Journey. Healing is healthy, I am learning and will continue to learn to love me, get to know me again, trust me and above all, DO NOT LET YOUR HEART talk you into anything else but healing
AMEN
Egg on my car, picture frames, he let his dog kill 2 of my dogs and constantly attack my other dogs, hides keys, takes my personal documents and hides them, broke the fence yard, took bank acct to cleaners and left me with negative, kicks me, left hand prints on me, pushes me down to only say it was my fault – I did it to myself and in my imagination that he touched me.
Both of my parents are narcs and this is a combined list of the things they have broken:
windows, doors, walls, dishes, glasses (drinking and the kind used to see), a clock, cars, TVs, board games, gaming console, Mom burned an expensive collection of Dad’s comics and trading cards (MTG), clothing, a fence, large outside trampoline, Dad broke and stole from his kid’s piggy bank, Mom used all the money in the bank account we had to share because I was a minor (it was supposed to be my college fund, instead I went nearly 20k in debt to finish). I’m sure there is more but I can’t think of it right now.
my dresser, my bedside table, a large toy guitar that he threw at me when i was really young, my bedroom walls multiple times, doors, door frames, my phone case from throwing my phone, pieces of the dash of my mom’s car, his own hand from punching something, my will to live, my self-esteem, and god knows what else because i’ve lost my entire childhood. i don’t have memories of anything.
My former wife (who is a narcissist) and her elderly mother & father (both narcissists) broke the following:
My soul (and almost) broke my body (former wife & her mother INSISTED that I put my health & career at risk to look after her father), demanded financial support for her narcissistic mother, and nearly drove me to suicide on more than 1 occasion. They did not care about the damage they did; in fact, they RESENTED being held accountable & scapegoated me for ANYTHING that went sideways in that household (which it often did).
Very odd things: correspondence between the head of Stanford’s math department and me, a big piece of fabric that was made in Africa, stole and destroyed a child support check from my former husband, stole and destroyed a check for my first place win in a chili cook-off, cashed in my chips for my 2nd place win in a blackjack tournament, my love of tennis, he would return every ball with a back spin on it. But he just took over from where my mother left off. Left him 22-years ago.
He Broke my Soul and then he took pleasure and held it high esteem and a sense of pleasure and A GAME TO BE WON in his pursuit over these years that the woman and realistically I was only a girl when he sought me over a period of time and then began to take until I had nothing left to give to the world anymore.. And I believe his end game in a game I didn’t know existed was for me to die and he took great pride together with his flying monkeys who I honestly believe went into it with intent to do harm as I received several online images of hang urself etc.. I do believe he wanted me to commit suicide and to self harm and since that Is not working I believe the final break will be when he actually sees someone kill me and this will be apart of a syndicate of Flying monkeys and it has had no barrier to how low people will sink in just because a boy NOT A MAN even though he is in his 30’s but because it is perceived that with money comes ethics or respect and though he might be respected for his fathers money I know that in Gods eyes NO AMOUNT OF MONEY CAN TAKE AWAY THE WRATH OF WHAT HE HAS DONE TO ME AND MY FAMILY AND ALL TO PROTECT THE LIE THAT RACISISM IS DEAD IN SOUTH AFRICA.
Had a few of these Assholes in my life for far – my mother, a couple of short-term boyfriends & a work supervisor.
The mother dented me enough to cause CPTSD & two decades journey through therapy & healing.
The other, good family members taught me self-respect & gave me fighting skills and love.
The male Assholes tried to break my spirit.
I broke them back, broke them GOOD. Gave it back, and then some more, for all the abuse they heaped on their exes, and were planning to heap on me. For bullying in the workplace (the HR ground him down & sacked him when he refused to improve).
All of them will be terrified of me until the end of their unnatural lives. They collapsed into little heaps of ash, like vampires in the sunlight.
They had it coming. For all abused women and children. 😎
Hmm. Let’s see. Our front door kicked in. All of our pictures destroyed, 3 windows, a lamp from my deceased grandmother, the bathroom door, a kitchen cabinet, the door to the basement, numerous remodeling repairs started and never finished. the door to the storage building, and one of my pianos. 2 years later, still trying to get my house back in order after the divorce.
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Put a pool cue through my headlights so I couldn’t leave him,punched holes in doors,walls,kicked holes in doors,smashed up all my stuff with a pool cue when I was divorcing him,put it through my laptop,screwed up mobile phones,scratched dented vynl records,killed pets,hurt pets,broke sentimental items of mine,broke DVD’s,plates,punched 2 plate glass windows in a shopping precinct,I sat and picked the glass out of his hands,and it’s goes on and on
I took on current narcissist full blown! For 24 years I e been thru private hell no one knows about. I had and have no where to go and then some.! It’s almost like worth living with him then living on the streets but when I get abused I beg to differ!! My experience went from he got me pregnant when I was 22 and I told him with joy and looked at my stomach and punched me as hard as he could I dropped to my knees in tears and I was in absolute shock he did this. He said if u don’t have an abortion ok go in there myself with a coat hanger and kill it and u and ur whole family.!!
I was just a young woman with holes and dreams and gave him at chance at a relationship and he did this to me.! He chased me for months when we first met as I didn’t want to date him I was very Leary of him but then after almost 6 months I gave him a chance and then after About 7-10 months I finally gave the goods! So I ended up having an abortion out of complete fear for my family and my own life.!! I was absolutely alone there and devastated this mf wasn’t there for anything!!
I was dumb and stayed as again i had barely anyone and I was deathly afraid to leave or he’d kill!! I kept it all in and for 24 years I’ve been chased around my yard he would beat me up over petty things!!! Making a can of green beans opposed to peas.! Nervous wreck around him everyday! He would find something to fight about and calls me fat loser POS cunt worthless I mean over absolutely nothing!!!! I’d make us a meal I’d serve it for us I keep a beautiful house clean and then some I do anything he asks as I’m so controlled I didn’t know any better then what control was I just felt that was love and he loved me!.! We were driving one day and something triggered him as usual and he flipped over the way I said something g and anyone who knows me knows I am pure love I and very loving and affectionate and caring I love to help ppl and if I can’t get the problem solved I’ll give a hug and my friendship and be a good listener.! I am a very good person I know who I am and he tried to change me and still is ! Lol unbelievable
But he got so mad about something so dumb honest to God it was something stupid like the name of a car and I am not a argumentative person I never really have been unless I’m challenged and hurt cuz I’m being picked on first!!! Otherwise I don’t even live like that outside of this house this way.! I feel safer in this dirty world than I do in my own home! I feel very unsafe and scared.!
So we were driving it got him so heated that he hit my head slammed it in the glass window u flung open the door to get help!!! He drove like a maniac all over the place like a maniac pulled chunks of my hair out as I’m hanging out the truck and he’s punching my head with his fist and holding my hair with his hand and my hair was what was holding me in the truck I’m 5’8 170 pounds!!!!!!!!! And I get beat up if I game some weight I get the piss beat out of me!!
Then I couldn’t escape his grip I’m screaming help help pop this mf wouldn’t let me loose or let me walk! He said plz get ur fat asssss back in here I’ll leave u alone.! I had no choice he got me back in slammed the door on my leg,,, and then proceeded to punch my left side and broke 3 of my ribs!!!! I had 5 contusions .!
Trying to skip things so this isn’t so long but then we got near to the house and I told him I can’t breathe u think this sob wok take me to Hosp nope he drove allllll over town. Making me listen to his complaints and he hates that I’m fat!’n input on 10 poundsssddd and he flippe I’m so mentally exhausted.!! He forced me to forgive hime as I’m deathly afraid he’ll lol my family I get home and pretend it’s all ok.! Tell me why he takes me yet again the next weekend and does the exact same shit to me again!!!! Re fractured them ribs from healing drug me all over pulled my hair out yet again!!!! Called me every name unde the sun and scremmmmm yeallllllssss at me with my head pounding and hurting so bad I’m forced to listen to this big mouth screaming at me for about 3 hrssssss straighttt he doesn’t stopppp the raging is so bad u guys!!! There’s gotta b someone who can relate?? Plz comment I need help. On how to get away with y one dog! He won’t let me take any of my dogs. But anyways for years I’ve had things dumped on my thrown at me beat up punched slammed hair pulled out in chunks black eyes choked tell I almost passé don’t super bad.!!!! Chest punches back punches arm punches cans thrown at me so awful. Honest to God I do not wish this abuse on anyone plz do not give a man or woman that acts controlling a second look ever this is the result and only get worse.!!!! I can’t stand it then I have to go to work with hats on all the time and make up on my eyes to cover the abuse up. And no one knows anything if anyone at work were ti come to me ti talk or start drama over something else I’d probably flip out as they don’t know how badly abused I am at home! No one does but u ppl here! First time I’m sharing this. And I’m still in This I want ti start a go fund me for 50.000 I need ti get my life back!! I need it to get away and far away ti feel safe.! I’d have ti do it quietly or he’ll do anything it hurt ir destroy me this man is sick and so awful as a human being.! He calls everyone names. If a old person falls down in the road I would jump to help and I genuinely feel bad he would laugh and say that persons drunk or something ti just not have feelings!! I can’t stand him! I waste my whole life on this fool! He forces me to do things I don’t want to do or hurts me.! I know this is wrong he is sick and idc if he needs help I don’t care anymore about what’s wrong with or feel bad for him!!! I am sick of worrying about his sickness u need ti move out or try ti get help! He never shows affection all these years never ever and sex with him when I had it which maybe we had sex savior 35 times in this 24 years!!!!! How shitty it’s just never been nothing. He finally tells me after all theee years he don’t want kids or marriage which I’m good about now I don’t and never would want his kids or marriage noooo way!!! Just the other night I pulled a double at work and came home and I purposefully work second shift to not be around him if u worked first he threatens me to go find a first shit Job or he’s gonna go find someone else!!! U know my stomach didn’t get sick or upset like it used to years ago like I used to cry and feel so sick over ever losing him to another as he’s cheated many times but always came back cuz it never works they were very smart but anyways yeah I said absolutely not I am staying on second it’s the only peace I get then the eeekdnd come and it absolute hell!!! Omgggg it’s helllll!!!! He demands food and I serve him and he nitttt picksss me to death!!! I learned to live being alone and I agree men!!!! I hate them most of them i know they’re not all bad but I hate most of them that are like this it’s sick!!! Anyways do I refuse to work first I do not want to be around this POS and so I came home from work early the other night and I was dreading it so bad as I knew he was gonna hound me to do shit he does that every time I’m off if he doesn’t hear me clenaingcooking or anything he’ll Beat me up with objects or his mouth spits Al I’ve the yelling if I go watch a movie as he is doing the exact same !! He sits and plays games online all the time I’m home or when he comes home from work right then I do my normal routine I told honest in advance I may want to go to bed when I get home so do u want any food now or ? And he’ll say no he’s good. The min he walks in the door he’s calling me to get up!!!! I am exhausted I already have severe anxiety since I was a kid so if I know I have to get up early say the next day for work or whatever I end up tossing and turning allllllll night long ont of fear I’ll over sleep or scared of him or whatever it is I can’t sleep. So then it will be like 5:30-6am and he gets up to go to work I’m just dozing and then he lets the dogs out it get all noisy again I’m up again!!! Then I go to the bed as we do not sleep together as he hit my head in a dream one night super hard I blacked out for a min that’s as 15 years ago and tell this day I refuse to sleep with him! It’s been dead for years. But he act like he’s alway done with me and everything he blames me for is what he already does to me I swear on everything in this life I am so good to this man! I mean I truly do not do anything ever to hurt him or I never hit him I’d be killed if u even tried so I cover up my head and chest when he comes after me I lay there and take it all again over something like I accidentally bought the wrong soda one time out of all these years at the store and instead of thinking shit happens nope I get beat up. Or he’ll say I make him do that stuff to me cuz of my words. All I say is it was an accident sorry then he’ll keep on and on on drilling me!! I’ve soda!!!!! Instead of just dealing with it or I say I’ll run to exchange it real quick I’m so good and problem solving due to this man. And he won’t let things go he finds the pettiest stuff cu that all he’s got on me is this type of crap!!! I don’t cheat I’m always here for hi. I’m always doing everything he wants and needs again out of fear!!!! I’m sorry I’m all I’ve the place but this is how my brain functions or I’m always nervous and the yelling omggg u guys the yelling is so bad he screams like one of them wrestler guys tell he so red and can’t breathe and is spitting all over me!!!! He did hurtful towards me I didn’t ever do a thing to this man!!!!!!!! Most shallow person I’ve ever met in my life.!! No consciousness for anything.! He treats ppl like shit all over.! He has severe road rage, he screams in public at cars and ppl if they r slow or he’ll get them back in traffic like haha u did it to me I’m doing it back haha!! Child!!!! And I said do u ever consonants someone’s sick or something is medically wrong that’s why they drive that way?? Nope he always fends for his behalf!! Or they shouldn’t be on the fucking road he’ll say!! I mean wow. But he is sick super mentally sick he apparently did something terrible at the age of 19!!! And it was with a chic he dated and I guess she claimed he made her do things. Well he got time for it and did time and got out and two year alter I met him. He is a felon for it but he swore he didn’t do it and they offered him a plea deal and even with a detector test that he passed they still convicted him back then and so his POS mother got real upset at him and he said he didn’t do this and who knows idk what to believe but anyways I had no clue back then as technology wasn’t like it is today to find out the past he had so by the time I found out I felt I love I thiought and his story of defense seemed right so i trusted this fool. So for the Mon she refused to go see him locked up and never helped him thru that time! She was so embarrassed I think and then some! But the dad was always there. So I believe that is what this all stems from and he hates women because of his mother! I can’t blame her but damn! This family could have told me I feel like they didn’t tell me so I’d stay to get him off they’re backs cuz he is abuseve to them too his whole personally is that jokey sarcastic attitude like u r the butt if all is jokes! But if u give hi back anything he does to u in return he gets really pose doff and flips out he can’t handle it and Will best someone up over this shit! His own dad walks on eggshells over his touchy personality!!! Everything literally bothers him.! And he has to have the best clothes shoes house material things means everything to him he exhausts with that crap!! And he usually buys me something high end if he best the shit outta me and in order to say sorry he’ll buy me something I don’t even want angry but to go and I can’t say that or he’ll hit me again!!! And so he bought me something expensive but now say we have an argument yet again!!!! He’ll say something disrespectful as usual and boom he’ll threaten me to give the item back to him and throws it in my face how he bought me that!! I said u can’t buy be shit u use it to control me!! This isn’t love this is all about control ti him! He denies that.! Then flips when I say the truth he flips and comes after me grabs me by my hair and slams me around all the time I’m so used to it it’s become a every weekend tradition now! I become so numb to this abuse but it hurts just the same every time! It’s to much! For anyone! My God I’m absolutely lost.! If inelsve I can’t take my one dog he won’t let me take anything as he own it all!!!!!!!!! So when we fight he take the phone from me he bought me but I pay for my own bill but he makes sure he had it where I depend on him and I don’t I work independently and pay my own way!!!! I never wanted deals like this with him he makes it this way I go along with it cuz he forces me too! If I had my way of have my own car phone and no ties to him period! He’s been such a bastard man!!
But yeah I pay for these things. But he threatens me if I don’t give it back and he’ll chase me all up and down our vacant road in the country no one sees me out here they have no idea I’m being abused! So then I wanted a new car I earned it and my credit got better and then some I work my as off two jobs he won’t let me focus and work but he can be a business owner and live at work but refused to let me be and work as much as I nest yet he’ll screams time over buying something for groceries and I pay too!! He beats
Me up with the groceries if I come in after shoot I bring it all in and unload it all and clean out everything rotate it all he flipsssss and stands over me like a boss and as I pull an item out of the age he’ll say did I say to get that!? Did I want that!? Who’s that for??? And then it starts cuz I’ll snap back like what?? It’s for tidbit that I’m gonna make for lunches or something!!! He wil the grab all the items he didn’t want and smash them at me throw them alllll over the floor like posssss he is and destroys the clean kitchen all over something petty and mind u I pay my fair share here and I work two jobs but I can’t do more then a certain amount of hrs cuz he want s me home to of course control and boss me around.
But yes the groceries in sundays here is hellllll!!!!!! I mean hell I try to not do shit that osiers him off but there’s always sormthingn hell ask me to get him something and if I don’t send. A pic to price the item isn’t in stock he refuses to believe me he still doesn’t believe me even if I price it he take it all out in me if the stores don’t have what he wanted !!! He’s very picky to abiut foods he only eats badly fats food constantly and here I gott seats healthy and it’s ok for him to eat bad cuz he’s a dude he said. !! My weight had always been an issue for him!!! He hates a chunky chic and it’s like u should be lucky to even have a woman like me! I’m not ugly not am I obese but damn I don’t have kids never been married and have beautiful soul I like to think as my mother raised us to be good ppl!!
I had so much more to say here and I’m all over the pace sorry about that. I am also very considerate.! Do in the other night while I worked all day no sleep due to anxiety of being late the next day, and again I try s hard to make sure he’s aware I am tired so let me sleep plzzzzz that’s shut her things he hates that when I do sleep I can sleep about 10 hrs!! And my hours are all late I work tell 11:30 pm Every night .! So of course ei won’t get up tell like noon!!! But he thinks I’m sleeping that entire time from 12 am to 12 pm and clearly I’m not!! So he refused to believe me tells me to text his phone. Every hour then while he sleeps in other room so he can see the next day and if I don’t then I’m lying like is this POD for real I can’t even live and I work my ass off on top of that I have to put on a act at work I deal with ppl all day ! For some parts rather and here I’m being forced to price my sleep patterns to this posssss and instead of him caring and being loving to me Abington this anxiety I’m getting tested and drilled on top of it! I’m so tired of this shit ! Anyways as I was just about ti fall asleep in our bed with my dogs I hear him yell hello.!! Which mean s he want to eat something mind u he doesn’t cook nor ever clean vacuum wash clothes he doesn’t sweep mop take out trash doesn’t clean up dog piss or poop of it happens and I keep a clean Ass house.!!!!!!!!!! And he leaves a trail all over plates sodas cans dishes u name it laundry all I’ve the table just a pure slob but if u leave one thing out I get a reaming about it!!! I can’t take this hypocrisy anymore he says it’s not ummmm yeah it is! Of course he’s gonna say no he don’t want to lose control over me. !!!!
Anyways I hear his big ass mouth so I get up and exhausted I said what ? I mean he knew I asked this before he got home just so I can prepare he just purposely had to do this to mess with me alllll the time he’s like this with everything too!!!! He’s a jerk and he’ll do tests on me too like if he feels I didn’t say the right thing he’ll go I’ll tell u what if I don’t fucking tell ‘me where u were for this extra hour I won’t make it out of here!!! I have to send pics when I get my nails done to prove I’m their live videos u name it.!!!! Usually the one who accuses is the one who’s cheats right?! So I make him what he wants some breakfast and served it! And waited tell he finished I put it in the washer to wash. I got him a soda and decided to lay on couch near him and my dogs so the dogs and I got all comfy everyone ate and now I’m so tired I finally started to fall asleep mind u he’s got the volume up so loud I can’t even think!! And also fyi he doesn’t do any drugs and never ever drinks! So this is him all naturallllll real sick In the head naturally! So then I’m asleep and I wake up to him smacking his sandal he wears in house as slippers but I hear him do this loud smacking sound on the couch! He doesn’t this all the time when he’s feeling cocky and arrogant and needs to start controlling me or the dogs for some damn reason!!
And I fell back to sleep he does it again then yells Yoooooo to me!!!! In this cocky ass tone and he only says yooooo when he wants to start a fight!!!! I wake up and go what!? He says get up!!!!! Out of no where! I said what? What is the problem now? And boom he just flipped out again!!!!!!!!! Like a sob he is. I’m like. What is the problem u got everything u wanted.! And I still get abused even trying to prep him l can’t win for losing. I said I’m tired any other man would cover up his gf and cuddle her or maybe let her sleep!!!!!! Nope.! He’s had an issue with my sleep since we met! So here it’s Fri night going in to say here he works today I will be off but I do clean and cook and I want to rest too he won’t let me. He’ll call to see if I’m up and if I sound like I have sleep in my voice he’ll scream and threaten me wait tell he gets home!?!!! What can I do to stop him!!!?? He won’t leave me alone!?!!!! And he keeps chasing me around! I have no where to go no here ti I’ve all my money Is month to month living. I can’t save there nothing to save my car payment is a lot I pay half the mortgage etc!!! Hell know I’m up to something if I don’t pay him the cash for rent so to speak he owns the house. I pay for something I’m not even on no deed I found out! He is a list. He disrespects me in public and calls me names and make it look as tho he hates me in front of women that maybe attractive and he’ll purposely say huh?? All ugly and confused looking out of the blue I’m like what???? I didn’t even say anything ! It’s cuz if a women goes by he’ll make it seem he’s available by doing that ugly face and irritating look at me and then he stares at everyone and women he looks at again he looks at me all ugly as soon as hru walk by just to make it look like he’s not with me! I mean Honest to God I can’t make this shit up! This is truth i speak complete truth here! So I like I said the weekends here and I’m dreading it already he’s already cutting my size down already! He seem me briefly like I said the night of the fight over me sleeping and seen I haven’t lost much weight so he said I’m in reverse with it I gained some! And he gets so mad about it! I told him I’m so done with his bs.! Then he says bring me my phone and my car cuz he put 10000 down on it but it’s my loan!!! I pay on it every month!! I didn’t want this car he forced me to get it and he chose to put that money on it! I knew this was gonna happen again! And again he threatens to tie y car the phone and all the things he bought me awaybfborm me! Which is things he did out if I believe guilt for previous beatings he did to me then he buys me something.! He never says sorry he never changes he gets worse and worse they always do! I hate narcissists and psychopaths they r sick and have no remorse this one also is very bi polar I can see the highs and lows happens as he yells and gets physical with me.! It’s bad folks. So again here goes another weekend and he will scream about something again!! Whether it’s traffic or someone in the stores he’ll blame me for the issue! Honestly this is awful I don’t do a damn thing I just try to laugh and have fun and he turns on me.’ If I say this lady at work came up to me and says the boss asked her to do something more at work she told me she said no cuz she didn’t feel like it he would say so what maybe she didn’t want to do it. But if said the same thing she did he would say that’s fucking lazy and wow u are stupid and but it’s ok for her! That’s what I’m saying he never has my back but beats it never has my anything but beats my everything! I’m lost .! Plz don’t judge me here plz don’t tell me things that it’s obvious I already know and thought of im mainly here out of fear and I can’t get away with no money!!!! I need money how do I get out! Shelters!? And crap ? I guess to save my life a shelter is better then this hell! But idk I’m just to tired to fight this man anymore I wanna give up! I’m always so positive and bounce back and I hate myself for forgiving this man one hour after almost Killjg me but if I don’t do that he will do it again and again he won’t stop!! He’s a raging machine I can it anymore I’ve prayed for help for years!!!!!!
my ex husband was more perfidious.. over the years he reduced my books in our huge 6m bookshelf step by step on behalf of his aristocratic (not read) collection from a 100 down to about 10. If he could not convince me that one of mine is useless and nonsense, it was gone – AWAY few weeks later. Same he did/still does with our children’s belongings. He tuned upside dow al my clothes hoping to find something that finally proofs the I am betraying him or being guilty for anything or underclass that could be useful to blackmail me. Underclass same as stupid, dull, crackbrained, thickheaded… same all of my friends and later also my father was blamed as fucking looser (when I asked for my heritage my father gave me when we bought the house he still was living in).
It’s been 4 years now since I left him. I left him almost everything in our house AND the house. He took my girlfriend with whom he is extremely happy and on top her daughter ist bis friends with our daughter! What a coincidence! So all is about true love and peace now in his life. But there is me. I swear he waking up with demons and go to bed with them EVERY DAY. Creating new coops how to degrade me, destroy me and my life without him, try to make the world think I always abused him, I am an alcoholic, I don’t take care of the kids. Every tiny information my life is used to make an exploiting event that proofs my disability.. in everything. He is suffering. WOW.
As he is getting more and more overexcited when information reach him p.e. I was seen in a restaurant drinking wine, he turns in the red coll and makes him smell a triumph when spreading all these bad tastes and behaviors throughout his boundaries.
I’d give a fuck about this very simple, shame and envy behavior, if there not would be my 2 babies in the middle that are suffering. And I am not sure if they there is something else they mean to him than using them for his advantages: Feeding his ego, extending his uppermost class power and make me being crucified when everyone on mother earth is watching me dying with pleasure